“Kiss and Release”


There’s a well-known fishing term called “catch and release.” You catch the fish and then release it back into the water, allowing it to live another day. The essence of fishing lies not in killing but in the act of catching. Some people apply the “catch and release” philosophy to their dating life, prioritizing the thrill of catching a hot date over committing to a long-term relationship.

Initially, I thought that the risk of a fish dying after being released was mostly due to the cut in its mouth caused by the fishing hook. However, I have since learned that the number one reason why fish die after release is the psychological trauma (and effect on their heart) of being caught by a would-be predator. Recently, my friend Jon taught me that the best thing you can do for the fish is “kiss and release,” show empathy to the poor pescado and give it a kiss before throwing it in the water.

Jon helped me realize that the “kiss and release” philosophy is relevant in all kinds of ways.

Have a friend who used to be close but now is a bit of a pain? Kiss and release.

Have a project that just isn’t gaining any momentum? Kiss and release.

Have a sofa that is threadbare and no longer fits your design aesthetic? Kiss and release.

“Kiss and release” embodies what we at MEA call the “Great Midlife Edit,” a mindful ritual that allows you to say goodbye to that which no longer serves or nourishes you. The key is to love and appreciate how these things once served you, granting them the respect they deserve before letting go.

What aspects of your life are ready for a “kiss and release?”

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